Seeking intimacy but fearful of abandonment.
Anxious Attachment Style (Preoccupied):
- Individuals with this style are characterized by a strong desire for closeness and a fear of abandonment.
- They may be highly sensitive to signs of rejection or distance from their partner and can become overly invested in relationships.
- They may have difficulty trusting their partner and may be prone to jealousy or controlling behaviors.
Here’s a hypnotherapy script to help let go of an anxious (preoccupied) attachment style:
Induction and Relaxation
(Soft, calming music can be played in the background)
“Welcome to this hypnotherapy session, where you’ll let go of an anxious (preoccupied) attachment style and cultivate a more secure and loving way of relating to others. Find a comfortable seated or lying position, and take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Allow your body to relax, starting from your toes, up through your legs, hips, back, shoulders, arms, and head. As you exhale, feel any tension or stress leave your body. Imagine yourself in a safe, peaceful environment, where you feel protected and supported.
Take another deep breath in, and as you exhale, repeat the phrase ‘I let go’ to yourself. Allow your mind and body to let go of any resistance, worries, or concerns. You’re here to release an anxious attachment style and connect with others on a deeper level.”
Accessing the Subconscious
“Imagine you’re standing in front of a door. This door represents your subconscious mind, where your deepest thoughts, feelings, and memories reside. With each breath, feel the door slowly creaking open, allowing you to access your subconscious.
As you step through the door, you find yourself in a room filled with memories and emotions related to your attachment style. Notice how anxiety and insecurity have led you to become overly attached, clingy, or needy in relationships. Acknowledge the fear of abandonment and the discomfort associated with this pattern.
Repeat to yourself: ‘I have been struggling with an anxious (preoccupied) attachment style, and it’s causing me distress.’ Allow this acknowledgment to sink deeply into your subconscious mind.”
Releasing the Pattern
“Imagine a soothing, calming light beginning to fill the room. This light represents your desire for secure attachment, self-love, and inner peace. As the light grows, it starts to dissolve the anxious thoughts and emotions associated with your preoccupied attachment style.
Repeat to yourself: ‘I release the need to constantly seek reassurance and validation from others. I let go of the anxiety and fear of abandonment.’ Allow the light to wash over you, gently guiding you towards a more secure and loving way of being.
With each breath, feel the anxious attachment pattern loosening its grip on you. Imagine yourself becoming more confident, more self-assured, and more loving in your relationships.”
Reprogramming the Subconscious
“Now, imagine a new, positive pattern emerging. See yourself in a healthy, loving relationship, where you feel seen, heard, and valued. Notice how you communicate effectively, express your needs, and receive love and care in return.
Repeat to yourself: ‘I am worthy of love and connection. I trust myself and others. I am capable of forming healthy, secure relationships.’ Allow these positive affirmations to sink deeply into your subconscious mind, replacing the old, limiting patterns.”
Integration and Awakening
“Take a few deep breaths, and slowly begin to bring your attention back to the present moment. Notice how you feel more relaxed, more centered, and more open to the possibility of secure attachment.
Remember that this is just the beginning of your journey. Be patient and kind to yourself as you integrate these new insights and patterns. You can return to this peaceful, loving state whenever you need to recharge and reconnect with your inner self.”
Counting Up and Awakening
“When you’re ready, slowly open your eyes. Take a deep breath in, and as you exhale, repeat to yourself: ‘I am renewed, I am refreshed, and I am open to a more loving and secure way of being.’ Count up slowly, and when you reach5, you’ll feel refreshed, revitalized, and ready to take on the day with a new perspective.”
1…2…3…4…5…
Keep in mind that hypnotherapy is not a replacement for professional help. If you’re struggling with attachment issues or other mental health concerns, consult with a licensed therapist or hypnotherapist for personalized guidance and support.