Theme: Safety, Relaxation, Releasing Fear-Based Tension, Body Trust, Emotional Healing, and Comfort in Intimacy
Therapeutic Purpose: This script is designed to support women experiencing pain during sex where fear, anxiety, trauma, anticipatory tension, emotional guarding, or subconscious protective responses may be contributing.
Examples may include:
- Vaginismus
- Dyspareunia
Important Note: Pain during sex can have medical, gynecological, hormonal, infection-related, pelvic floor, or structural causes, so medical assessment should always be part of care. This script is intended to support the emotional and psychological component of pain-related tension, not replace medical treatment.
Pre-Talk (Therapist Introduction)
“Today, this is not about forcing your body to do anything…”
“It is about helping your body feel safe…”
“Helping your mind relax…”
“Helping your body release protective tension that may no longer be needed…”
“Sometimes pain is not simply about the body being broken…”
“Sometimes the body learns to protect itself…”
“Protecting from fear…”
“Protecting from pain…”
“Protecting from memory…”
“Protecting from anticipation…”
“Protecting from emotional hurt…”
“And today… we begin teaching the body that it can feel safe… calm… relaxed… and supported…”
“This is not force…”
“This is safety…”
“This is trust…”
“This is healing…”
Induction – Progressive Relaxation
“Take a slow, deep breath in… and gently let it go…”
“Again… breathing in calm… breathing out tension…”
“And once more… letting go…”
“Allow your eyes to close…”
“And simply relax…”
“Relax your forehead…”
“Relax your jaw…”
“Relax your shoulders…”
“Relax your chest…”
“Relax your stomach…”
“Relax your hips…”
“Relax your thighs…”
“Relax your legs…”
“Relax your feet…”
“And with every breath… your body begins to soften…”
“Your mind begins to quiet…”
“And a feeling of safety begins to grow…”
Deepener – Safe Descent
“In a moment… I will count from 10 down to 1…”
“With each number… you drift deeper into calm… deeper into trust… deeper into safety…”
10… deeper
9… letting go
8… softening
7… safe and calm
6… body relaxing
5… peaceful inside
4… deeper comfort
3… letting go more
2… safe and supported
1… deeply relaxed
Therapeutic Work – Releasing Anticipatory Fear
“Sometimes the body remembers pain before anything happens…”
“The mind anticipates…”
“The muscles tighten…”
“Fear arrives before experience…”
“And the body prepares to protect…”
“But now… you no longer need to live in anticipation…”
“You do not need to brace…”
“You do not need to tighten…”
“You do not need to prepare for fear…”
“You may begin to release anticipation…”
“You may begin to release guarding…”
“You may begin to allow calm…”
“You are safe in this moment…”
Releasing Fear-Based Muscle Tension
“Sometimes muscles tighten not because they are failing…”
“But because they are protecting…”
“And now… your body can begin to learn a new response…”
“Protection can soften…”
“Guarding can release…”
“Tension can loosen…”
“Muscles can soften…”
“The body can breathe…”
“The body can relax…”
“The body can feel safe enough to let go…”
“You do not need to force release…”
“Your body releases gently… naturally… safely…”
Rebuilding Safety in the Body
“Your body is learning that safety is possible…”
“Your body is learning calm…”
“Your body is learning trust…”
“Your body is learning softness…”
“Your body is learning that relaxation can replace fear…”
“Your nervous system begins to quiet…”
“Your breath becomes softer…”
“Your body becomes less guarded…”
“You begin to feel more at ease in yourself…”
“More trusting…”
“More comfortable…”
“More safe…”
Emotional Healing Related to Pain
“Sometimes pain carries emotional memory…”
“Fear…”
“Hurt…”
“Disappointment…”
“Tension…”
“Emotional guarding…”
“And now… what no longer serves you may begin to soften…”
“Fear may release…”
“Old tension may release…”
“Emotional guarding may soften…”
“You do not need to carry old fear into every new moment…”
“You may begin again…”
“Safely…”
“Gently…”
“In your own time…”
Suggestion Phase – Relaxation and Comfort Response
“As fear decreases… relaxation increases…”
“As safety grows… the body softens…”
“As tension releases… comfort becomes easier…”
“As trust grows… guarding reduces…”
“Your body learns calm…”
“Your body learns softness…”
“Your body learns comfort…”
“Your body learns that it does not need to tighten in fear…”
“Healthy relaxation becomes easier…”
“Comfort becomes more available…”
“Safety becomes familiar…”
“Your body knows how to relax in its own time…”
Future Pacing
“Imagine yourself feeling calmer…”
“More trusting in your body…”
“More relaxed…”
“Less fearful…”
“Less guarded…”
“Breathing more easily…”
“Feeling safer in yourself…”
“And each time you relax… your body learns…”
“Each time you trust… your body softens…”
“Each time you feel safe… relaxation becomes easier…”
Awakening
“In a moment… I will count from 1 to 5…”
“Returning refreshed… calm… safe… and emotionally lighter…”
1… gently returning
2… body awakening
3… mind becoming clear
4… refreshed and peaceful
5… eyes open… calm and renewed
Post-Hypnotic Anchors
- “My body can relax safely.”
- “I release fear and soften into comfort.”
- “My body does not need to protect in fear.”
- “Safety and relaxation grow within me.”
- “I trust my body in its own time.”
This script should be delivered very gently, slowly, and trauma-informed, especially for women with pain histories, fear-based tension, or sexual trauma. In many cases, it works best alongside medical care, pelvic floor therapy, and emotional support.
