Self-esteem is your opinion of yourself. People with healthy self-esteem like themselves and value their achievements.
While everyone lacks confidence occasionally, people with low self-esteem feel unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time. This can be remedied but it takes attention and daily practice to boost self-esteem.
See your doctor for information, advice and referral if you’re having trouble improving your self-esteem or if low self-esteem is causing problems such as depression.
Characteristics of low self-esteem
Typically, a person with low self-esteem:
- Is extremely critical of themselves
- Downplays or ignores their positive qualities
- Judges themselves to be inferior to their peers
- Uses negative words to describe themselves such as stupid, fat, ugly or unlovable
- Has discussions with themselves (this is called ‘self talk’) that are always negative, critical and self blaming
- Assumes that luck plays a large role in all their achievements and doesn’t take the credit for them
- Blames themselves when things go wrong instead of taking into account other things over which they have no control such as the actions of other people or economic forces
- Doesn’t believe a person who compliments them.
Low self-esteem and quality of life
A low self-esteem can reduce the quality of a person’s life in many different ways, including:
- Negative feelings – the constant self-criticism can lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt.
- Relationship problems – for example they may tolerate all sorts of unreasonable behaviour from partners because they believe they must earn love and friendship, cannot be loved or are not love able. Alternatively, a person with low self-esteem may feel angry and bully other people.
- Fear of trying – the person may doubt their abilities or worth and avoid challenges.
Perfectionism – a person may push themselves and become an over-achiever to ‘atone’ for what they see as their inferiority.
- Fear of judgement – they may avoid activities that involve other people, like sports or social events, because they are afraid they will be negatively judged. The person feels self-conscious and stressed around others and constantly looks for ‘signs’ that people don’t like them.
- Low resilience – a person with low self-esteem finds it hard to cope with a challenging life event because they already believe themselves to be ‘hopeless’.
- Lack of self-care – the person may care so little that they neglect or abuse themselves, for example, drink too much alcohol.
- Self-harming behaviours – low self-esteem puts the person at increased risk of self-harm, for example, eating disorder, drug abuse or suicide.
Causes of low self-esteem
Some of the many causes of low self-esteem may include:
- Unhappy childhood where parents (or other significant people such as teachers) were extremely critical
- Poor academic performance in school resulting in a lack of confidence
- Ongoing stressful life event such as relationship breakdown or financial trouble
- Poor treatment from a partner, parent or carer, for example, being in an abusive relationship
- Ongoing medical problem such as chronic pain, serious illness or physical disability
- Mental illness such as an anxiety disorder or depression.Seek help for underlying self-esteem problems
Chronic problems can be demoralizing and lead to self-esteem issues. Seek professional advice for problems such as relationship breakdown, anxiety disorder or financial worries.
Self-esteem is strongly related to how you view and react to the things that happen in your life. Suggestions for building self-esteem include:
- Talk to yourself positively – treat yourself as you would your best friend. Be supportive, kind and understanding. Don’t be hard on yourself when you make a mistake.
- Challenge negative ‘self-talk’ – every time you criticize yourself, stop and look for objective evidence that the criticism is true. (If you feel you can’t be objective, then ask a trusted friend for their opinion.) You’ll realize that most of your negative self-talk is unfounded.
- Don’t compare yourself to others – recognize that everyone is different and that every human life has value in its own right. Make an effort to accept yourself, warts and all.
- Acknowledge the positive – for example, don’t brush off compliments, dismiss your achievements as ‘dumb luck’ or ignore your positive traits.
- Appreciate your special qualities – remind yourself of your good points every day. Write a list and refer to it often. (If you feel you can’t think of anything good about yourself, ask a trusted friend to help you write the list.)
- Forget the past – concentrate on living in the here-and-now rather than reliving old hurts and disappointments.
- Tell yourself a positive message everyday – buy a set of ‘inspirational cards’ and start each day reading out a new card and carrying the card’s message with you all day.
- Stop worrying – ‘worry’ is simply fretting about the future. Accept that you can’t see or change the future and try to keep your thoughts in the here-and-now.
- Have fun – schedule enjoyable events and activities into every week.
- Exercise – it is such a good boost to the brain for all kinds of things but especially in combating depression and helping you to feel good. Targets need to be step by step, such as starting with a walk round the block once a day, enrolling at a local gym class or going for a swim.
- Be assertive – communicate your needs, wants, feelings, beliefs and opinions to others in a direct and honest manner.
Practice the above suggestions every day – it takes effort and vigilance to replace unhelpful thoughts and behaviours with healthier versions. Give yourself time to establish the new habits. Keep a diary or journal to chart your progress.
Let go of low self-esteem with hypnosis!
Inside all of us is a desire to accomplish more, to live life and experience each day to the fullest. Yet, for many of us those desires stay locked deep inside, crowded out by fear, overshadowed by self-doubt and denied by that destructive feeling of low self-esteem. This self-defeating behavior can become such a part of our existence that sometimes it is hard to notice that we suffer from low self-esteem.
But you may only have to listen to the things that you say to yourself to realize that you could be treating yourself in a way that you would not treat anyone else. Why is it that we constantly tell ourselves that we are not good enough, strong enough, or smart enough? These limiting beliefs are absorbed through the process of living and help to create our sense of self, but guess what – they are just thoughts!
The only person holding you back from the limitless opportunities in life now, is you. Self-esteem is something that you create with your thoughts and the good news is that you can change your thoughts. With the help of self hypnosis you can tap into that deeper mind of yours and make the changes to your thoughts that will help you to live the life you truly deserve.
Imagine what it would be like to:
- Treat yourself as a true friend!
- Let go of any judgment of yourself!
- Live your life free of fear and limitations!
Hypnosis is a natural state of focused concentration and this self hypnosis sessions has been developed to help program your mind to think about yourself in a better, more positive way. Good self-esteem is not about putting a high value on ourselves because of our achievements, our income, or any other aspect of life. It is about giving ourselves help and support so that we can grow and flourish.
This hypnosis sessions uses various advanced hypnotherapy techniques to help you make positive changes at a subconscious level, so that you can treat yourself in a way that adds to the quality of your life. It is time to stop holding yourself back. It is time to treat yourself in a positive way, to value what you do and who you are, so that you can become the person that you wish to be.
Free yourself from that jail of low self-esteem!
Disclaimer: Please remember that everybody is different and therefore results and response times do vary from person to person.
Confidence and Self-Esteem
Boost your confidence and improve your self esteem with hypnosis! Confidence is an attitude of mind, which means it is very amenable to self hypnosis and hypnotherapy. You might think that feeling self conscious or anxious is just naturally how you are. But at some point you have learned to feel this way, even if it was so long ago that you cannot remember why or how. The good news is that anything you have learned, can also be unlearned!
With the help of hypnosis you can address any thoughts that may have weakened your confidence and lowered your self-esteem and replace these with better, more helpful thoughts. Our professionally hypnosis sessions have been designed to help “reprogram” your subconscious mind so that you can stand tall and achieve what you want to achieve.
Increase your self confidence by changing your moment-to-moment thoughts and to help you deal with any past issues that may be holding you back in life.
It has been designed to help you to:
Achieve a state of calmness.
Be more sociable and outgoing.
Develop good, positive feelings.
Step outside of your comfort-zone.
Speak freely and express your views.
Foster a better, healthier self-image.
Relax and enjoy the company of others.
If you have any questions about our Confidence and Self-Esteem Hypnosis Sessions please e-mail us here: firstname.lastname@example.org.